To become that parent who who really helps their kids you need 4 things:
Good parenting is not a secret club, but there are some basics that really help make it easier to understand what your kid needs.
Self-awareness. Understanding and trust in who you are is the foundation that you build your life on. I have tools to help your kid discover who they are and then trust it! These 2 ideas will provide them that solid foundation to build their life on. When they have a way to access this foundation, and they know you understand who they are, they have a home - a safe place full of love - to come back to. Being connected to the Real You and knowing you are not alone makes even the most difficult situations manageable.
A daily practice. Having a daily practice gets you in action and keeps you in action “a body at rest stays and rest, a body in motion stays in motion..”. When you have a daily practice you are committing an act of integrity. You give your word, you keep your word. When you do this you build trust in your self on many levels. Your daily practice may be meditation, yoga, rememberance, a morning walk, or lots of other things, but the important part of it is that it is time with yourself where you can quiet your brain and connect with the Real You.
Perspective. Perspective is the difference between getting triggered by a behavior and seeing it as a learning opportunity. It's the difference between blind emotional reactions and intentional engagement. Your listening, your integrity, and your presence are critical, but without a map of what really matters for you and your kid it is easy to get lost. You will save enormous time, energy, and money being connected to the big picture.
Courage. Courage is what it takes to keep trying. Failure is an essential ingredient of success. The journey of getting what you want includes creating bigger and juicer mistakes. It is amazingly powerful to believe that you can handle what you create. You want them to develop these skills, and it will take courage and trust from you to let them create and learn from their experiences. Coaching helps turn failures into learning experiences and makes the whole experience fun, or at least rewarding.
While your kid most certainly has had moments of being totally on target, in the heat of the moment it is easy to get pulled into the fray. Rejection, the failed test, the poor performance, feeling lost or not understanding, even success can crash their perspective and their self-confidence; if they are resilient and keep making efforts, but still do not get positive results, it will erode their courage and sense of self. In the face of these things (that do happen every day), how do they continue to feel powerful and on their game?
The Real You
Deep inside, behind all the negative voices, the attepts to look good and the pressure to do what you are supposed to do, is your passion, talent, creativity, and courage. I call this the Real You - and its one of the key concepts in my book Launch Your Life.
Being connected to the Real You turns challenges into opportunities, failures into learning experiences, and life into an exploration of how to feel alive. The Real You provides moments of absolute clarity and inspiration about who you are, what you want your life to be, and how you want to feel each day. This is connecting to your inner knowing – your self-awareness - your heart.
You know that, if what you want is not filtered through what is possible or practical or what you should do or what other want you to do, life is really amazing.
It is like having a home to come to...check this out:
Greg was struggling with completing school. He was in a pattern of not finishing what he started. His parents contacted me because they knew that he was an amazing kid, but he was stuck. We began coaching together. We made sure that the basics were covered – keep showing up for classes, get enough sleep, eat healthy, do your work as best as you can, communicate with the teacher, etc. Getting this foundation in place – and it takes a lot of courage to get these in place - paves the way to get to into the nitty gritty of the struggle. For Greg, like others, it was only as we began to connect to his Real You that his spark for life returned. He had lost touch with his heart; but once he re-connected with it, all his struggles transformed. With perspective, instead of struggles the challenges became part of the game called “learning”. The result? He completed his program. Got a job before he graduated. And he was committed to create a more healthful lifestyle for himself. He had a great relationship with his parents. He felt seen and understood by them. |
If you want to get beyond all the surface level stuff that is holding your kid back, come Play Huge. There is so much potential inside the young person in your life. Available inside them are great gifts – for them and for the people in their life.
The place I start in my coaching is Know Yourself - how does your brain work, how do you learn, what does your heart care about. Knowing Yourself is the greatest gift you can give to yourself. Seeing another person's Know Yourself is the greatest gift you can give to them.
To become a parent who helps your kids, a great first step is to get our free Know Yourself workbook! I have bundled it with the Play Huge yEs-zine subscription. The combination of these materials will inspire you to move from hoping something changes to making it happen! You will have steps you can take to become the parent you want to be...there is this other little bonus that comes along also, which is that you will get steps to live the life you want to live - not a bad bonus, huh?
Unlocking your potential will make you an amazing parent and someone who feels alive. Click here to get started with the yEs-zine and receive the Know Yourself workbook for free.
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…Play Huge for Businesses and Schools
As a leader you know that your biggest resource is your people. When they are on target everything goes well and you thrive. When they feel powerful and important, their creativity, courage, commitment, and aliveness come shining through. But your sense is that your people do not feel powerful or healthy. You have heard stories of organizations that make it happen for their employees, but you are not feeling it.
I have years of experience with groups and creating momentum. I know what it feels like to be part of a team that is on target, having fun, and thriving. I can help you create the winning formula to get your team where you want them to be. Imagine…
| Your teachers creating magical experiences for their students because they feel supported Your employees coming to work with positive attitudes because you have created a fun place to work Your staff using their creativity and problem solving skills because they have escaped feeling overwhelmed People you work with challenging themselves to grow, stretch, learn, and become the leaders that you want them to become |
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