How it works.
4 strategies (and 1 insight) for powerful parents
Become that parent who who really helps your teen or young adult make their way in the world!
Being a good parent is not a secret club, but there are some basics that really help make it easier to understand what your kid needs.
A daily practice. Having a daily practice gets you in action and keeps you in action “a body at rest stays and rest, a body in motion stays in motion..”. When you have a daily practice you are committing an act of integrity. You give your word, you keep your word. When you do this you build trust in your self on many levels. Your daily practice may be exercise, meditation, yoga, a morning walk, or lots of other things, but the important part of it is that it is time with yourself where you can quiet your brain and connect with the Real You.
A plan. Having a plan for what you are doing as a parent is the difference between getting triggered by a behavior and seeing it as a learning opportunity. It's the difference between blind emotional reactions and intentional engagement. Your listening, your integrity, and your presence are critical, but without a map of what really matters for you and your kid it is easy to get lost. You will save enormous time, energy, and money being connected to the big picture.
Courage. Courage is what it takes to keep trying. Failure is an essential ingredient of success. The journey of getting what you want includes creating bigger and juicer mistakes. It is amazingly powerful to believe that you can handle what you create. You want the young person in your life to develop resillience and perseverance, and it will take courage and trust from you to let them create and learn from their experiences. Coaching helps turn failures into learning experiences and makes the whole experience fun, or at least rewarding.
Getting yourself out of the way. If you are using your kid to feel okay about yourself, you ought to expect difficult times. You have got to be able to put your stuff aside and make sure that the young person in your life gets all the love, attention, and effort that they need to become a healthy adult - which is a lot.
Understanding and trust in who you are is the foundation that you build your life on - and its the foundation that your kid must build their life on.
While your kid most certainly has had moments of being totally on target, they are constantly on the edge of falling off the path. Rejection by a friend, a failed test, a difficult choice, the poor performance, feeling lost or not understanding, not getting into a college or landing a job, even success! can crash their their self-confidence.
If you have a daily practice, a plan, courage, and can keep yourself out of the way, they will show their resilience and keep making efforts. You will then have a teen or young adult with confidence and on the path toward a healthy independant adulthood. How does that sound?
The Real You (the insight)
The Real You is your deep self. It is who you really want to be. It what happens when your passion, talent, creativity, and courage come to life.
Deep inside, behind all the negative voices, the attepts to look good and the pressure to do what you are supposed to do, is where the Real You is - it's one of the core concepts in my book Launch Your Life. Connecting to the Real You is the only way to find meaning and fulfillment in life.
The Real You turns challenges into opportunities, failures into learning experiences, and life into an exploration of how to feel alive. The Real You provides moments of absolute clarity and inspiration about who you are, what you want your life to be, and how you want to feel each day. This is connecting to your inner knowing – your self-awareness - your heart.
You know that life could be really amazing...if everything is not filtered through what is possible or practical or what you should do or what others want you to do.
It is like having a home to come to...check this out:
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Greg was struggling with completing school. He was in a pattern of not finishing what he started. His parents contacted me because they knew that he was an amazing kid, but he was stuck. We began coaching together. We made sure that the basics were covered – keep showing up for classes, get enough sleep, eat healthy, do your work as best as you can, communicate with the teacher, etc. Getting this foundation in place – and it takes a lot of courage to get these in place - paves the way to get to into the nitty gritty of the struggle. For Greg, like others, it was only as we began to connect to his Real You that his spark for life returned. He had lost touch with his heart; but once he re-connected with it, all his struggles transformed. With perspective, instead of struggles the challenges became part of the game called “learning”. The result? He completed his program. Got a job before he graduated. And he was committed to create a more healthful lifestyle for himself. He had a great relationship with his parents. He felt seen and understood by them. |
If you want to get beyond all the surface level stuff that is holding your kid back, come Play Huge. There is so much potential inside the young person in your life. Available inside them are great gifts – for them and for the people in their life.
The place I start in my coaching is Know Yourself - how does your brain work, how do you learn, what does your heart care about. Knowing Yourself is the greatest gift you can give to yourself. Seeing another person's Know Yourself is the greatest gift you can give to them.
To become a parent who helps your kids, a great first step is to get our free Know Yourself workbook! I have bundled it with the Play Huge yEs-zine subscription. The combination of these materials will give you a plan and an opportunity for a daily practice.
It is intended to inspire you to move from hoping something changes to making it happen! You will have steps you can take to become the parent you want to be...there is this other little bonus that comes along also, which is that you will get steps to live the life you want to live - not a bad bonus, huh?
Unlocking your potential will make you an amazing parent and someone who feels alive. Click here to get started with the yEs-zine and receive the Know Yourself workbook for free.
You might be ready to get going with coaching. If that is the case, then click here and you can begin your journey.
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