The moment of truth

I am here to help you avoid being disappointed and full of regret at the moment when it is time to say good-bye to your kid;  the moment of truth is that time when they are leaving the house and their room will be empty. 

The dangerous game – waiting for the next thing

We have all done it before.  We are not thrilled with what is currently going on, so we think, “well, things are not going very well, but when I get past this and on to the next thing, then everything will be great.” 

This may seem familiar.  In middle school, well you were in middle school, and you thought, well when I am in high school everything will be awesome.  Then when you got to high school, you were a freshman; and you thought, high school is okay, but when I am a senior, that will be awesome!  Senior year comes and it’s fun, but it’s not really as fun as you thought it would be. You are certain that college will be totally tight. 

In college you start as a freshman – again.  Then by the time you are a senior, the most exciting thing is being out on your own, making money and living out in the world.  No more school.  But, wow, the “real world” is hard.  Work is constant, no more freedom between classes, no more sleeping in, and the work is only okay. 

So you think when you get that promotion…or new job…

When you buy your first car…

When you get married…

When you have kids…

Now that you are making a decent salary…

When you retire…

And there you are.  The life of always thinking that “it’s” going to happen someday is a very dangerous game.  And we have all played it in our own ways. 

Take a moment and think about where you are in this game. 

What are your interactions like with your kid?  On a scale of 1 to 10 where 1 is "what interactions? We don't ever talk.  All we do is yell", or "I never see them" and 10 is massively satisfying because they come to you for advice, guidance, and love.  How will you really feel when their bedroom is empty?

If you are waiting for some event to happen that changes your relationship, you are playing that dangerous game. 

It may be a cliché, but you sure do not want to wait until it is too late to figure out how to have a relationship with your kid.  I have seen too many parents and kids in tears of regret when the time to say good-bye comes. 

You do not have to trust me, yet.  But do check in with your heart, and know I want to help.  Just download this first offering for free, and you will get tips and insights every two weeks. 

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